For many men, the honest answer to the priest's second question is that they want their girlfriend for her beauty and, in most cases, for sex.In many relationships, men don't get emotionally invested - they just get laid for a while.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men. But the ridiculousness of my situation was embarrassingly obvious in the very instant he asked the question.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset. I knew that - in light of my certainty - my relationship with her was pointless.
We were making the standard mundane small talk about how I was liking school and college life, when the conversation took an interesting turn onto the topic of the girl I'd been dating for the last few months. I worry sometimes when I hear girls saying things like "I want him to be my long-term boyfriend," or when people under the age of 20 get concerned that they haven't had a serious relationship yet.In a study of long-term relationships between older women and younger men, more than 95% of the men made the first move.And research from University of Santa Cruz shows an almost institutionalized way for older men to make the first move is to initiate a productive mentoring relationship with a woman and then follow that up with a sexual overture.So it seems to me that the cluelessness of men when it comes to reading sexual overtones is actually on a spectrum, and the more extreme their abilities are in the high-IQ side of the brain, the more extreme their inability to read nonverbal sexual cues will be.(And this explains why the conversation about this research on the geek-genius blog Slashdot is so spunky.) 2.I remember having the same mindset myself at that age. Granted, no one hopes for this outcome and we have these peripheral ideas about needing time with a person to test the relationship, but in the end of the day, serial relationships do more harm than good.