any man who did not marry before he was thirty-five was punishable not only with atimia (loss of civil rights), but also with pecuniary penalties, and he expressly states that in choosing a wife, every man ought to consult the interests of the state, and not his own pleasure.
Marriage was usually arranged between the parents of the bride and the groom himself.
A man would choose his wife based on three things: the dowry, which was given by the father to the groom; her presumed fertility; and her skills, such as weaving.
The ancient Greek legislators considered marriage to be a matter of public interest.
In ancient Athens, marriages were arranged between the groom and the guardian (kyrios) of the bride.
When the suitor was chosen for the daughter, the suitor and the father would proceed in a process known as engysis, (‘giving of a pledge into the hand’), which is where the two men would shake hands and say some ritual phrases.
Another was the desire felt by almost everyone, not merely to perpetuate his own name, but also to prevent his heritage being desolate, and his name being cut off, and to leave someone who might make the customary offerings at his grave.
With this in mind, childless persons would sometimes adopt unwanted children, including children who had been left to die.
This resulted in the suggestion that, whenever a woman had no children by her own husband, the state ought to allow her to live with another man.